Embracing Our Imperfections
I’m reading the book, Art and Fear (Bayles and Orland). The above quote really struck me as a valuable take-away.
The notion that when we fall short, we should just drive on until we succeed – it’s incomplete. In the context of art, the authors point out that not only should we persevere and learn from our mistakes, but that the imperfections are CRUCIAL to the success of the finished piece. And since life is a kind of art, those little failures are a necessary part of our ultimate success.
Caretakers of Integrity. A short story about the Boy Scouts, Spectating Loudmouths and Generational Values.
Scouts Honor…
“Saint Bernard” is a patient and friend. He is also a Vietnam Vet, retiree, handyman, Scout Master, father and grandfather. The man has been around and has both the stories and scars to prove it.
This past weekend, he chaperoned his Boy Scout troop to a pro hockey game. The troop was excited to see the game, but they were also working the event. As the National Anthem was played, they were tasked with walking the American flag out onto the ice. The boys were both honored and excited to fulfill this mission. Their uniforms pressed, their gazes were unflinching as they hoisted Old Glory up for all to see. The scouts proudly took their seats, satisfied with their good deed.
The Ugly Americans…
Seated behind Saint Bernard and his scouts were a group of guys who had apparently enjoyed quite a bit to drink and the game wasn’t going their way. The players weren’t scoring. The refs were making all the wrong calls. The men yelled and screamed, shouting expletives and insults at the players they could never be, despite the scout troop sitting directly in front of them. They were like spectators in Rome’s coliseum. Their favorite gladiator was like an avatar, an action figure that they praised above all – at least while he was healthy and winning.
F YOU, ref!!! Defense – YOU SUCK!
Leadership-by-Example…
Saint Bernard disapprovingly looks back, on several occasions. He is angry, disappointed and uncomfortable, to have to speak up to these grown men but someone had to. The Ugly Americans roll their eyes, whisper a bit and snicker…until the Scout Master stands up.
Saint Bernard says, “Hey, guys…can you knock it off with the swearing, the troop is here trying to enjoy the game.”
Spectator: “YES, SIR…SORRY SIR!” This was a sarcastic bellow, as if the man was embarrassed for being called out and is lashing out in desperation, to save face. Past the point of no return now, he must slight a scout master.
On several occasions more up to the intermission, the rowdy group acted up to the point where Saint Bernard, or others, had to admonish or shame them. It took security being called to put a stop to it. It should never have come to that.
Caretakers of Integrity…
As the loudmouth was escorted out of the stands, one of his friends approached the scouts, “I’m sorry, I’d like to apologize for my friend, haha.” While this was a nice gesture, Saint Bernard was having none of it. He said,”It’s unfortunate that you couldn’t have been a better friend, did the right thing and reigned him in while he was acting up. We could have used your help, THEN!”
The moral of the story: there are still those who possess true integrity, scattered among the masses who struggle to speak and act for what is right. These people are like shepherds among vast flocks of sheep. These individuals do the right thing, even when no one is watching. They are far from perfect, but they follow a code uncompromisingly. Saint Bernard is one of these individuals.
He’s a man of experiences and lessons learned. Forty years ago, he might have been that loudmouth in the stands, offending others. But he learned from those mistakes and no doubt, he had teachers, people who stood up and paid integrity forward, keeping him honest. What an awesome gift to pass on to future generations.
We must all strive to be like Saint Michael Bernard,”…to fight for right and freedom and to keep our honor clean.”
Unearthing a Piece of Yourself
My friend Paul recently moved back into the area and took over the family farmhouse, established in the 1700’s. The home sits on the Pennsylvania farmstead which several generations of his lineage lived and worked.
In our fast moving technological world, I think we under-appreciate or perhaps, can’t truly fathom, all the history that has transpired just underfoot. So, here my friend is going through the tedious process of renovating a 17th century farmhouse. He and his wife live out of an adjacent mobile home, every morning emerging to work alongside contractors to sure up foundations, run new plumbing, install flooring and mend chimneys. It’s a tall order, for a couple in their sixties.
Just the other day, while troubleshooting drainage along the perimeter of the home, Paul tripped over what he thought was a rock. He recovered quickly and grabbed for a shovel, wedging it under an edge and extracting the object. Upon inspection, his frustration yielded to a smile as the piece was dislodged from the earth. He swept the reddish brown dirt from the surface and immediately recognized the hulk as an old foot-operated sharpening wheel – picture an old man on a porch turning a large, heavy stone with a foot pedal, perhaps sharpening an axe.
Now, to me…this whole undertaking is incredible: a man in retirement, moving back east to restore the family farmhouse. Just awesome! And the physicality is tremendous; we’re talking back-breaking work. The shear willingness to do this is incredible. But the most impressive thing, in my view, are the memories and emotions that must be in play as Paul returns home. No doubt, he remembers so much about this place, and there also must be an awful lot that he has long forgot and is reminded of on a daily basis – for instance, when he stumbles upon it.
This sharpening stone, to me it’s symbolic. Sharp tools are a necessity on the farm. The broken stone must have been discarded in the yard or perhaps buried there as fill. Maybe it busted on the old man and he tossed it aside in frustration, the years eventually sinking it into the earth’s embrace. Paul stared off in recollection. He explained that granddad would use it all the time to put an edge on his tools. He could hear the abrasive squeal of the stone, licking at steel. Paul recalled the sparks flying off the wheel and the smell of grinding metal and stone.
Makes me wonder what else is buried in that yard. What fragments of this family’s life lay beneath the surface, just waiting to be discovered? No, I’m not talking about bodies, you dopes…but common items lost or discarded, which carry along with them a significance. And what of our own yards…what relics of ours have we left behind, accidentally or on purpose? I’m thinking time capsules: the significance of grandpa’s watch or old coins brought back from a foreign land. Or pirate’s booty, brought ashore and laboriously inland to this obscure homestead in Pennsyltucky.
Some philosophical questions:
1. What items will we leave on this earth and who might find them?
2. What story might these tokens tell of our lives and what would we want people to know about us?
3. What sentiments do we dig up: feelings, emotions, memories, along with these fragments?
Write Your Story
We are the authors and editors of our life’s story.
Every day when we awake, in our deliberate thoughts and actions we determine the flow of the plot and write new chapters.
The subject matter is of our choosing, we decide the genre.
Will it be an adventure, suspense, romance, thriller, self help, horror or a comedy? Every good story has a little bit of all these elements. And with a few keystrokes, we can make edits, changing the course of events, allowing us to transform suspense into adventure or unspeakable horror into the lightest comedy.
We write. We edit. And we self-publish – deciding when to release the story, and how to best present it to the world.
Make today a beautiful chapter.
Making Your Comeback
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The graph either rises or falls. Rarely, if ever, does it level off.
I come across people every day, who fall off the workout wagon and return to DDIP out of shape and unmotivated. They say things like, “Yeah, it has been a while…haven’t worked out in a couple years…used to be able to do that exercise no problem but now it’s not happening!”
This can really mess with one’s mind. It’s as if we’ve climbed the health and fitness mountain, only to tumble back down to base-camp, humbled. Looking back up, those craggy slopes can be very intimidating. We can’t imagine doing all that work again, so we psyche ourselves out and keep laying around, being nasty.
Here’s some good news, though: once you have climbed the mountain and are familiar with the route, all you need to do to get back to the peak (in peak shape) is to put one foot in front of the other. We have all heard of muscle memory. The fact is, patterns of thought and action within our body are preserved; we can tap into them even after long periods of dormancy. Everyone knows that soccer mom who can climb down from the bleachers at her kids’ practice and juggle the ball, or that dad – a former wrestler who can take to the mat and give the coach a run for his money. And the same can be said for intellectual capacity. We can call upon this information and apply it throughout our lives, at our will. Sometimes, we even get better with age, as our DDIP mascot, Sam, can attest. Never is it too late for us to train both body and mind, pushing the graph up into positive territory.
I know quite a few people right now who are in the process of making a comeback. This blog is for them. YOU CAN DO IT! You’ve stood atop that mountain before and know the route, blindfolded. The time has come for you to begin your ascent!
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